The Raymond Rule – Why Your Characters Need Conflict – Sitcom Secrets for Radio Success
Some nights while eating dinner, I have no appetite on TV for the political shout-fests or sports round table know-it-alls. So, I keep clicking until I hit gold: a rerun of Everybody Loves Raymond. A show that hasn’t been on the air in 20 years but always delivers the laughs.
I wanna break down why and then offer your first challenge once the show returns from the holiday break in January.
The foundation of any successful show is its plot and characters. Without either, you have no direction and can’t have a content strategy. What is the unique plot of your show? What is your show about?
Everybody Loves Raymond’s Plot: Ray Barone, a successful sportswriter and family man, deals with a resentful brother, an always disappointed wife, and meddling parents who happen to live across the street.
It may shock you to know that they made 210 episodes over nine seasons. And that’s the plot of every one of them (on purpose). Ditto any successful show (Seinfeld, Survivor, Friends, Big Bang Theory, etc.). What’s your plot? The unique one-sentence frame of what your show is about?
Then come the characters. They must be relatable and each different to lend a contrast to the others. Here’s how you connect with the audience. Well-defined characters allow listeners to identify with one. It’s the tension with the others that makes the plot come to life.
If you’ve watched even a few Everybody Loves Raymonds, you will recognize and identify with these characters:
Ray: the show’s protagonist who lives across the street from his parents and struggles with the demands of work and his family, often getting a lot wrong.
Debra: Ray’s wife who is strong-willed, exasperated by Ray’s immaturity and his family’s constant intrusions into their lives. She can never live up to the expectations of Ray’s mother.
Robert: Ray’s older and taller brother who’s an insecure cop and is always overshadowed by Ray.
Marie: Ray and Robert’s mother who is an overbearing, meddling woman who constantly puts Ray on a pedestal, while criticizing Debra.
Frank: Marie’s husband who is loud, sarcastic, and eccentric, and has a habit of yelling and making bizarre comments.
Who are the characters on your show? They must, must, must be grounded in the truth. The difference between your characters and those on Everybody Loves Raymond is that yours are real (the TV characters are assigned to great comedic actors). You cannot give a persona to someone on your show – they’ll be inauthentic and the audience will sense it. Apply this exercise above to your cast then ask where the tension is and how they are different.
I was recently asked by a program director to evaluate their show. They said there doesn’t seem to be any electricity in the on-air conversation. It was apparent why when I listened. He has two of the same people. The only difference was their gender. They are both spouses, parents, the same age, and basically held the same world view. Not much contrast there.
CBS just had an Everybody Loves Raymond 30th Anniversary Special. The show’s creator, Phil Rosenthal, said the program is really about his home life. Because real life is relatable, very funny (if you have the right scripts and characters), universal, and timeless.
When you come back in January, run this exercise as a re-set for the year. There is never a downside to affirming your plot and characters.
Once you do, your content becomes easier to find and execute. Your connection with the audience heightens because of it. And you’ll own that turf. If you’re strategic about all of this, there’s no way you don’t see greater success a year from now.

But not my Carrot Weather. It has attitude and edge, and it almost always makes me laugh because it’s topical. And it curses at me. Where I’m blah on all the above, this app entertains me while I’m getting the weather information. As a result, I don’t shrug my shoulders at Carrot. Even its name is different from all the above. What do carrots have to do with the weather? Nothing! I’m loyal to it because of these differences, and gladly pay their $30 yearly fee because I (we?) need more laughter in our lives.

I get bored in Umstead Park, right by my house. I leash up Willow Two Toys® and Sam the World’s Neediest Dog® and we go for a walk. No phone, no music, no headphones, no disruptions. I turn the “gotta figure this out” dial down to zero. Only nature and my wandering mind. And what enters my brain when I invite in some boredom are solutions to challenges, ideas, and ways to innovate I didn’t have when I was filling that boredom with an endless search for something to solve it.
I don’t profess to have any super creative abilities. But I have found, when I create that brain space by walking through the park, things magically happen. I don’t know why and can’t predict when, but it happens. We don’t do enough of that. As an example from last week, we have a holiday concert at one station and the morning show has 100 tickets to give out. Instead of doing pairs of tickets so lots of listeners win, or the dreaded Family Four Pack (someone kill this, please), the walk through the park brought me the idea to give all 100 tickets to one listener. The morning show promotion Deck Your Doors was born in the park because of the boredom. The talent and brand manager loved it and now we have something that’ll make our show stand out.
So, I’m here to say go be bored. Find a park, let your feet touch grass figuratively, leave the phone behind, and let your mind wander. If you’re one of my on-air talent, try this weekly and watch what happens to your creativity.
I recently decided to add to the boredom menu. I bought a bike. While my friends all have bets on when I’ll end up in the emergency room, I’m betting that the boredom of the rides, with no phones or distractions, will unlock more of my curiosity. A few days ago, the boredom of a ride brought me the idea for this blog.
Human beings gravitate to routine and structure. The Bert Show on Q100 in Atlanta has been a part of that for decades. And poof, one day soon, it will go away. What will happen to his massive, loyal following in Atlanta and across his network of stations? However the station handles this moment could determine its success for many years.
I suggested we go on a long walk one morning for charity. That became Kennedy’s Wicked Long Walk. Kennedy just did her second walk and, in one day, raised over $70,000 for Samaritans, a local charity that serves young people who are challenged with mental health issues. Kids and mental health are the show’s causes, with the latter being important to Kennedy, as she’s been quite open with the audience about her mental health.
I’m not one for metrics but let me share some impressive numbers. Over $70,000 donated from more than 700 individual donors in one day. Samaritans provided to Kennedy the donor list and she wrote a thank you to every single one of them. She shared where their money was going and what it meant to her that they cared enough to help. Can you imagine how it felt for those who gave to hear from her?
This show gets the big and small stuff – they do things with relevant content that create wonderful experiences in the moment and big things that cause talk and keep them top-of-mind. Kennedy’s Wicked Long Walk is a new tradition for the show that asks listeners to help join forces for a cause that’s important. It’s a bold, different way to give fans a chance to do so, too. In turn, that deepens the bond – the connection- between Karson, Kennedy, and their Producer, Dan.
Let’s help you move from the former season to the latter. Let’s talk about two areas that help you get there: the money and the culture in your building (how you’re perceived). I’m not suggesting you’re not doing any of this or haven’t tried, but take these as reminders of ways you can become even more valuable in the building.
If you said it was resting comfortably at a zero, I’d get it. I’m Steve Reynolds and even I don’t care. And yet I listen to some personalities who think telling me that this is National Pest Control Week or today is National Doughnut Day is content. It isn’t, because it’s irrelevant to listeners’ lives.
I’m turning over the blog this week to one of the smartest people in radio. Jim Ryan consults, coaches talent, and is one of my closest friends. After nearly thirty years programming day-to-day in New York City for immensely successful brands like WLTW, CBS-FM, and WNEW-FM, along with growing national formats for Clear Channel, CBS, and Audacy, Jim felt it was time to take control of his future, so he’s stepped out on his own. Jim not only teaches me in every conversation, he makes me laugh out loud, too. Reach him at jim@jimryanmedia.com. Ladies and gents, Jim Ryan…
When radio played an original version of one of her songs (the ones owned by the guy she didn’t like), the request lines lit up immediately with Swifties telling the talent they needed to play her new versions. Companies like iHeart and Audacy moved to the new versions, mapping another Taylor win. The streaming services saw immediate results as well – Taylor’s new versions were crushing the originals in airplay. It all led this summer to Taylor buying back the original masters at a somewhat reasonable price.
Early August brings the tradition of the Morning Show Bootcamp. This year in Austin. A few hundred personalities who believe in radio gather to improve, grow, and network. As I reflect on the many I’ve attended, there’s one thing always missing that you should know. Before I reveal that, an admission…
Living in Raleigh, I became a Duke fan and Coach K had written a book in 1999 called Leading with the Heart. I re-read it last week and its message of leadership is more salient now, given where we are in the industry. It might be the single best book I’ve ever read on leadership. I quote it often and always note what Coach K preached is why Duke always wins.
The big story last week was the couple that got caught cheating at the Coldplay concert. I need to tell you no more because it was everywhere and you know it. Your audience does, too. We are in the engagement business, and we win when we own the moment. So, I wondered what radio shows did with that topic as it lived at the center of the pop culture universe. How did they seize the moment?
Mojo in the Morning at Channel 95.5 Detroit did Cheat Away at Coldplay where they asked listeners to confess their affair on-air to win tickets to the group’s concert in Miami.
Christine and Salt, WTIC-FM, Hartford had an appearance planned with a local baseball team. They wanted to record a video for the jumbotron warning cheaters at the game what could happen. The team nixed it, but I absolutely love that they came up with the idea.